#107: Blocks to Anger - Part 2
Welcome to Part Two of Blocks to Anger!
In part 2 of the episode, we discuss the benefits of anger for both him and her, the root of anger, how to get angry, and the fear of getting stuck in anger.
We jump right in and talk about some of the reasons Anger is so important - not just for HER to express but also for HIM to experience FROM her. If you don’t listen to anything else, please listen from 4 to 8 minutes in. So incredibly important for everyone to hear.
Benefits for her:
Releases the pain and gets it OUT of her. SO important.
Benefits for him:
He gets connected to the gravity of the pain.
The relationship won’t be as susceptible to long-range resentment.
Reframing the anger:
It shows us what we value and also what we need to protect (as Jason said, it points us TO something).
It will also help her stand firm, say “no”, thus helping us as women find our boundaries.
It will motivate her to work toward making things right.
HOW does she find the 11/10 anger:
Name what is NOT right.
Create a space for the expression of it.
Have a witness to your anger.
We wrap up by talking about getting stuck in anger:
We ride the wave when we get angry. We have to do it a couple of times to see if we can do it and move through the cycle (wave).
Try it - we can always go back to stuffing our anger, why not try the reverse and get it out, and then reassess.
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