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Your Healing Journey

Discovery & Disclosure

STAGE 1

It may feel like…
GRIEF
SHOCK
SHAME
LACK OF SAFETY

You may be saying…
”How could he?… And why?”

“I don’t know if I can share this with anyone.”

“Is this my fault?”

“I'd better have sex with him so he doesn’t cheat on me again.”

If you’re in this stage, this is the moment when truth breaks through, often in shock, pain, and disorientation. You're searching for safety while your sense of reality begins to unravel.

If you are here, here’s how we can help:

The {Hard} Work

STAGE 2

It may feel like…
DEEPER GRIEF
ANGER
TRIGGERS
CHAOS

You may be saying…
”Why does this hurt so bad?”

“Am I going crazy?”

“I feel pressure to forgive and move on.”

“I’m expecting (or asking) for too much.”

Grief deepens as you confront wounds, triggers, and hard questions about trust, love, and boundaries. The healing starts slowly through intentional work, with or without his participation.

If you are here, here’s how we can help:

  • Join us for our best selling class, Empowered Boundaries.

    Over the course of six live teaching sessions and a 100+ page workbook, you will walk away feeling ready to recognize when your limits are being crossed and how to ask for what you need.

  • Check out these episodes of Redemptive Living Radio:

  • Download our freebie, the Healthy Detachment Booklet

    Read the “Rescued” workbook. In this workbook, Shelley will guide you through many of the important pieces of the recovery process.

  • Join us for the RLW Retreat, 3 nights + 3 days of community, healing, laughter and {hard} work. Learn more here.

    1:1 coaching support is available as a safe place for you to share your grief, process the pain of discovery, and determine what you need to move forward toward healing.

    Group support is an opportunity to share your story and embrace other women on a different journey with a common goal.

STAGE 3

Digging Deeper

It may feel like…
QUESTIONS
CONNECTING TO SELF
CONTINUED GRIEF
INTERNAL PROCESSING

You may be saying…
”Where was God?”
”This is still not over.”
”Who am I with this as a part of my story?”
”Can I trust him ever again?”

In this space, there is a subtle shift from looking outward at him to turning inward and focusing on oneself. Grief persists. Questions abound. Grappling intensifies. You begin to piece together your identity and faith in a new light, even as the story remains unfinished.

If you are here, here’s how we can help:

  • Download these freebies we made just for you:

  • Check out these episodes of Redemptive Living Radio:

    • Episode #52 - Drop the Rope

  • Check out Worthy of Her Trust by Jason Martinkus. This book provides a unique perspective on what it takes to rebuild trust after sexual betrayal or pornography addiction.

  • Join us for Anchored: Remembering and Rediscovering Who You Are, six weeks of digging into experiences, beliefs, vows and false selves that have emerged in childhood and are still impacting you today.

    1:1 coaching support is available as a safe place for you to share your grief, process the pain of discovery, and determine what you need to move forward toward healing.

    Group support is an opportunity to share your story and embrace other women on a different journey with a common goal.

STAGE 4

The Bend In The Road

It may feel like…
HOPE
CLARITY
MAKING A CHOICE
RELIEF

You may be saying…
”Is he worthy of my love?”
”Do I feel safe with him?”
”I can forgive him (even if we don’t reconcile).”
”I can do this.”
If applicable, “We can do this.”

In this space, we start to breathe again as glimpses of hope reappear. As the dust settles, we begin to see that we have a choice to make:  to stay with him or to go.

If you are here, here’s how we can help:

STAGE 5

Redemption

It may feel like…
RETURN TO SELF
JOY
FREEDOM
TRUTH

You may be saying…
”I’m ready to move forward.”
”I trust me.”
”I trust you.”
”I’ve experienced that, too”
”I’m more than okay.”

This is where integration happens-where you come home to yourself, forever changed and mended together. You move forward with clarity. deeper trust, and a renewed vision of what a meaningful life can be.

If you are here, here’s how we can help: