Mindi Vande Kamp - 1:1 Coach + Group Facilitator

My husband’s sexual addiction came to light after his deployment in 2020. It was the year my entire world fell apart, but also the year everything finally made sense after living over a decade with his addictions impacting our marriage. Our recovery process was messy. My spouse was resistant to the recovery work, resistant to my boundaries and lacked the safety my heart needed to heal in relationship with him. Over 4 years of recovery work we endured multiple separations both in and out of home as he struggled with repeated relapses and trading one addiction for another.

During this time God gave me a life line of people for this journey as He knew exactly who I would need to endure the path set before me. I took Shelley’s boundaries class repeatedly and listened on repeat, attended their very first retreat, and found my “go to gals” in my support group through Redemptive Living. They became my anchor in the storm! I learned to find myself again, find my voice, to set healthy boundaries and found the most beautiful intimacy with Jesus in the suffering. 

Sadly, my marriage resulted in divorce in 2024 as my husband wrestled between his old life and new life and continually was crossing my boundaries. As I thought my husband wasn’t fully surrendered, I also came to the realization I was also not fully surrendered. I had made an idol of the outcome for my story, how I wanted my story to be written. Through the wilderness, suffering and trials, the Lord graciously helped me to take my hands off my marriage, off my desire for an intact family and have a posture of worship through the storm, despite my circumstances. I began to gaze at my Maker and only glance at my circumstances. I learned obedience and deep dependence with the Lord through the refiner’s fire.

As my ex-husband and I both reached a place of full surrender to the Lord and continued to allow Him to refine our hearts, our story took yet another twist in 2025. As we gave over to the Lord, we saw the Holy Spirit work in miraculous ways! My husband experienced the radical heart change that only the Lord could do and it changed EVERYTHING! As he started to honor my boundaries, created the safety my heart longed for and was consistent in his actions over time, I was convinced it was the real change I had been praying years for! We got remarried in 2025 with our children and parents present as our witnesses.

No matter how your story ends up, God will make purpose from it all! God will not waste your pain, your suffering, or your tears. He is with you! He is for you! He will make beauty from the ashes!

I am a wife, military spouse, mom to 4 kids ages 3-17 and a hospice nurse practitioner. My family loves any adventure set before us, especially if it involves the mountains! We are living in the beautiful redemption of the Lord alone!