In the meantime, when we are in crisis, we also need help using boundaries to push us forward and create immediate comfort and safety.  Kinda like the three items I so wish I had been able to have with me on the trail.

Today I am not where I used to be, praise God. I am not trying to fix it, I am not denying it. I have moved through it and am living in a place of so much joy, peace and wholeness.

I try to be fairly transparent here and have mentioned this in my monthly letter - my anxiety went through the roof once the kids started on-line school again in August. There were several weeks in a row where I was fighting to get through - like legit clawing my way out. The strategies I mention in the video, I was using on the daily.

But keep in mind - detachment is for YOU. It’s for you to gain clarity, to get more connected to yourself, and to truly see - how much effort is he going to put into the relationship.

Stay the course.

How are we hanging in? It’s officially Fall which makes my heart so so happy. Love me some Fall.

In the last blog post, I talked about what it looks like to show up for others and to also show up for ourselves. I even included some ways I’ve showed up for myself this week - just to get your mind churning as to how you can show up for YOU.

Embracing partial solutions actually makes me feel like I can breathe - it gives me freedom.

I realized - within me was a little girl that was heartbroken - and this is what made the situation so very painful.  The little girl within.

So often we give others power in our lives that only belong to us.

Here is the deal - I know I'm not alone in looking at others, seeing what all they are doing or not doing and wondering - what went wrong.

Our most important relationship here on earth, the one we have with our husbands, has been destroyed. We are left feeling anything but worthy. But in order to set boundaries, we must draw from our worthiness.

It also served as a way for me to see if Jason was serious about repairing the marriage.

In re-reading this book, I was also reminded that boundaries are healthy for all of us to have. Boundaries aren't just important in the after-math of sexual betrayal.