This time, I realized that my weight is NOT a source of his addiction. No matter what I weigh, my husband would have still made the same choices.

Girls - we have agency to look at our situations, get honest about where we are, and then figure out the small steps we can take to do things differently.

Because confidence comes from within - it's important that we are nourishing ourselves with the things that will help us feel well.

The light might dim, for a season, but ladies - it will never go out.  We must fan the flame.

As someone very witty once told me, "Well, Shelley, it sounds like you signed up for a personal development course and you didn't even know you registered for it!"

So here I am. Naming insecurity. Sitting in awareness. Working towards accepting all the different facets of me and overtime desiring to love all the different facets of me.

As a side note, I've decided for myself, step one to overcoming my insecurities is awareness.