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Making it through the holidays (you will have to read on to understand!)
We don't have to forgive perfectly, grieve perfectly, or go through this process perfectly.
On Working Toward Self Awareness
Little did I know that this was the beginning of an invisible me. There was a high cost that I would pay for standing in the shadows.
On what I've been learning about triggers
Whether it be a situation from childhood or from disclosure or anything in between, remember that a trigger is connected to our past.
2015 Intentionals
It's also a time to reflect, practice gratitude and be thankful for the many blessings bestowed upon - us big or small.
When Will This Process Ever Be Over?
And one of the greatest gifts you can give your wife is to make peace with that and work at becoming a safe person for her to continue to process with for the rest of your years.
Triggers and trust (the video)
In this video, Jason and I talk about what happens when wives are triggered and the trust between a wife and her husband seems to go back to square one.
Practical Tips for Setting Boundaries - Part Three
Remember : the posture of a separation isn't one step closer to divorce but rather one step closer to restoration and healing.
Practical Tips For Setting Boundaries - Part Two
Just to be clear, a boundary won't 100% of the time prevent our husband from acting out. Rather, it is something put into place for our safety and protection.
Practical Tips for Setting Boundaries - Part One
One of the first steps in my road to healing was finding my voice and finding my feelings. It's only after we accomplish this that setting boundaries can even be a tool that helps us communicate our needs to our husband.
On Sharing With Family and Friends
How do we invite others into our process all the while protecting ourselves and not damaging our husband's reputation?
How to Get What We Need Post-Disclosure (The Follow-Up)
I have found that when I couch a difficult conversation in this way, it proves to be more effective both for myself as well as for Jason.
New Groups Starting in November!!!
Just a quick heads up that there are a couple of groups starting in November.
How to get what we need post-disclosure (the video)
Jason and I talk about the dichotomy between what I needed post-disclosure and what Jason was able to give post-disclosure. Because of the dichotomy, it's one of many things that makes this process so hard.
Stopping the Lies
And let me tell you: stopping and affirming myself with God's truth did something powerful within me.
Expressing Anger - Part 2
Through working with her, I have started to find the right language and the right skills in order to “get out” my anger. The same skills you can use, too!
Expressing Anger - Part 1
Keep in mind that by working through the anger, we are better able to identify what the feelings and emotions are underneath the anger. I call these the “big five”.