Our hearts hurt, our souls hurt and we felt broken. Know this ladies: asking questions is normal. It’s going to come and it’s disorienting, confusing and our husbands will not always be able to hold them well.

What does growing WELL look like in difficult life situations or during our recovery process? What I have realized is - in order to thrive WELL - we must learn how to live in the present.

I remember finally getting to the point where I allowed myself to grieve-I would wail for hours in my closet and the sounds coming from deep inside actually frightened me. I realized at this moment that because I hadn’t allowed myself to fully grieve anything since childhood, it was years of pain and heartache all coming out like floodwaters through a broken dam.

This time, I realized that my weight is NOT a source of his addiction. No matter what I weigh, my husband would have still made the same choices.

You may never fully understand his choices of betrayal. But rest assured that his decisions do not mean you failed as a wife, or as a woman.

...and without the support from other wives I would have had neither strength nor courage enough to take that risk.

The bottle has tipped and the pain can finally pour out, making way for joy and peace to be poured back in. I begin to feel a freedom I hadn't felt my whole life.