This time, I realized that my weight is NOT a source of his addiction. No matter what I weigh, my husband would have still made the same choices.

Girls - we have agency to look at our situations, get honest about where we are, and then figure out the small steps we can take to do things differently.

Because confidence comes from within - it's important that we are nourishing ourselves with the things that will help us feel well.

The light might dim, for a season, but ladies - it will never go out.  We must fan the flame.

When I think about that event, my most poignant memory is of the tall woman standing in the back of the room with her arms crossed. As she catapulted a question my way, her tone revealed my story had hit close to home.

short video response to a blog post I wrote recently

It's only when you are doing these things that your wife can actually start to feel she is safe enough to grieve your past - her present. You hear me? She is grieving her present reality. Her truth.

Remember that the best thing you can offer yourself and others is honesty, grace, and love.

Just a quick note to let you know there is a new group starting December 2, 2015!

I almost decided to not write the book review - however, I feel like this book is an important one for any wife that finds themselves married to a husband with a sexual addiction or sexual integrity issue.

What you are doing is leaving your wife to die on the vine. You are allowing her to stay out at sea, day in and day out, without a life vest or a rope or any sort of hope to get to shore. It's selfish for you, yes you, Mr. husband to think that sharing tidbits with your wife here and there is best for her. Because it isn't.

It isn't necessarily about doing something to take the pain away. But rather sitting in our individual circumstances. Taking a deep breath. Loving ourselves well. Doing what we can to help ourselves. And waiting on God. A tricky balance for sure.

And one of the greatest gifts you can give your wife is to make peace with that and work at becoming a safe person for her to continue to process with for the rest of your years.